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that she was ready to accept Rama’s words and act according
to his wishes. She was indifferent to people’s opinions. She
thought that, ‘‘Instead of bothering about people’s views,
all I have to do is happily accompany my husband in his
decisions.’’ When Sitaji had so much respect and trust on
Rama, where was the question of finding loopholes in Rama’s
decisions ? Additionaly, Rama asked for forest exile without
even asking Sita. Here the question is,

Q. Didn’t Sita feel that at least Rama should have asked me
before asking for forest stay ? He has married me and
made me his life partner. Now, isn’t it his responsibility
to ask my opinion and think about my well-being ?

A. No. Such a thought did not cross Sitaji’s mind even once
because unlike today wherein wives consider their husband
to be their life partner, Sita did not do so. She considered
her husband to be her owner, her Lord and herself to be
a mere, obedient servant in his feet. Then how would she
expect Rama to ask her and then take a decision ?

The ideal relation between a husband and a wife :

Great is the Arya culture wherein the relation between
husband-wife, father-son, employer-employee was similar to
an owner and servant’s relation. The husband-father-employer
were given the position of an owner, not to blow up with pride
but to keep in mind that the responsibility of the well-being
of the son, wife, etc. was only and only his. He should have
it in mind that, “I have to take care about their well-being
and progress at all times. I can be the real owner only if I
fulfill this duty without fail.” Thus thinking, they used to
behave in this way. The sons-employees-wives also accepted
their position and could not act freely according to their own
will. They respected their owners and obeyed them. Hence,
they lived a disciplined life.
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