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Sita’s deep revelation :

How mature must Sitaji be ! So many years had passed, her
sons had grown up and she had not yet told them the intense
suffering that she had gone through. Wouldn’t she have felt
like sharing her sorrow with her loved sons ? It is very obvious
that in adverse times, we share our sorrow with our near and
dear ones in the hope of consolation. But it is a misconception
that ‘trouble shared is trouble halved’, because -
Remembering past troubles is a cause of sorrow again and
again. It leads to disturbance and dejection. It decreases
our courage and leads to anxiety and fear.

Thus, it is advisable to forget previous sorrows. If they suddenly
disturb our mind then we should immediately change our
track and think that, “Chakravartis lost their huge kingdom.
Compared to that, my loss is negligible. Sagar Chakravati
had to face the huge sorrow of losing 60,000 sons at stroke.
Where do I have to face such a grievous situation ?” Thus
remembering the great adversities of previous great men, we
should feel that our sorrow is negligible.

In this manner, we will not remember the sorrow repeatedly
and the sorrow will not depress us. Because if we remember
our sorrow again and again, we feel like sharing it with others.
But Sita had minimized her sorrow to that extent that she had
not even shared it with her sons even once in so many years.

To stop crying over your sorrow, first minimize the extent of
sorrow in your mind.

How to minimize the extent of sorrow in your mind :

Q. How must have Sitaji minimized her sorrow ? How would
she have convinced her mind ?

A. To minimize her sorrow, she must have thought that :
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